some uncomfortable advice

I've debated for a long time if I should write this post. I think anyone who has written a post like this feel that way. These days it's hard to determine what creative work is worth with everyone having VSCO, boomerang or any other "design" app, just about anyone can call themselves a designer. And while I don't subscribe to the "you have to go to college to get a good job" mentality there is something to be said for creative worth. Be it your years of experience, the extra things you have gone out of your way to learn about, apprenticing or just simply working your way through the rungs of bullshit to get to where you are today. Those experiences, challenges and years all add up. It's important to know our worth!

I recently had an experience that put this all into perspective for me. Watching another creative ask for services without reasonable compensation and then being rather rude about it. Now there's a lot of places I want to go with this and I guess the first one is don't be rude. The world is a small place and chances are that those six degrees of separation will one day cross your path again. It's been said that you attract a lot more bees with honey than you do vinegar. 
The more important part here is if you are going to ask someone for a service you should expect to pay them what they are worth and if you can't or don't want to, then move along. This should also apply to your friends. Say if your friend is a photographer it would be rather presumptuous to assume that they would photograph your wedding for free. Working out deals and asking for favors is totally up to you, but recognize what you are asking for - this is how they make their living. Friendships and businesses should stay separate if you aren't willing or can't afford to truly support their craft. 

I think it can be really hard as a creative to know what we're worth or if we're worth it. Sometimes we feel like we should take on a free project for a friend, family member or someone else for whatever reason...it's hard, but I often err on the side of don't take these projects. Most of the time they end up being more headaches they we initially anticipate and that can lead to all kinds of disasters. But taking on free projects or not charging what we know we're worth really damages the whole creative world. Selling ourselves short or thinking we're not worth what someone else is worth cheapens all designers. People will become accustomed to great work for great discounts and when they go to find another designer and are quoted much higher will feel like that's outrageous and could even end up being a dick to the designer over it. As humans it's part of our nature to want to feel needed, important and valued. By constantly offering discounted work, or never charging what you really should be you are making it that much harder for all designers. So charge what you're worth!

There are so many more things I could say about worth and value which would probably ultimately lead to respect, so I'll leave you with respect yourself, respect others and respect what you do. You're a representative for more than just yourself, don't be the reason someone has a sour experience. 

Colorado Flower Gardens

You already know that I love flowers and late spring early June is a great time here in Colorado for all the flowers. Peonies are popping up, the poppies are here and the rest of the wild flowers are opening up. 
My gal pal Allie was recently in town for about a week so we spent a few hours one day wandering around the CSU test gardens. Colorado got a super late snow this spring so everything was just bursting and so lush! 

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Desert Adventure

Me oh my! Where has the time gone?! Things have been only slightly busy as we bought a house! Yahoo!! Anyhow, we've been getting settled and enjoying the adventures of decorating and learning new creaks and cracks. Jordan also celebrated another birthday and we went back to California for two back to back weddings! 

I love weddings and these were both near and dear to my heart as I did the wedding invites for both. It's always to fun to see all the details come together and see the final day as I am only involved at the beginning. After the weddings Jordan and I snuck off to our own romantic getaway to our wedding destination city: Palm Springs

We love the desert. We love the heat. The mountains, people and obligation to be near a pool. Here's a selection of my favorite photos from our adventure:

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Spring flow

Spring is finally here and I couldn't be more ready for some warm weather, late sunsets and the promise of change. I'm in the first week of doing a 40 day journey with two of my girlfriends. In these 40 days we practice yoga daily (something that was pretty easy for me to do), we eat clean and according to what the body needs not just what it wants, and we meditate daily. This has been a hard thing for me to get into, but I'm slowly starting to appreciate it more. I'm a true vata/pitta in doshic speaking. I like to move, I'm airy and often a little flighty, I forget to eat, and sometimes have a hot temper (OK there is a lot more to me and the doshas but you get it). Meditation has been forcing me to consciously slow down and actually stop. It's been good to show myself what I am capable of and how reinvigorating it can make me feel. While meditating and focusing on taking things back to the basics I've been thinking about what spring is to me beyond the warm weather and the flowers blooming. Spring really is about allowing change and creating space. It's the opening and beginning for so many things, but also just another part to the cycle. It will come every year, although sometimes later, we can count on it to bring the change. Spring makes me want to twist. I want to rinse out my body, clear it of the crap and get ready to invite new sensations. This flow gets my core warmed and lets me feel that lovely detox from wringing out the spine and joints while keeping me focused on continuing to let my heart shine. 

Warm up > Sun A
Chair > Flow > Crescent > Crescent twist > Crescent > Flow
Forearm plank hold 15 > Side plank hold 30 > Forearm plank hold 15 > Side plank hold 30
Childs pose > Table Top intoCat/Cow > Down Dog
Chair > Chair Twist > Flow > Crescent > Step foot in Pyramid > Step to top > Do other side
Chair > Chair twist > Revolved Crescent > Crescent > Flow
Low lunge > add in quad stretch > Low lunge > add in twist > pop back leg up

Crescent > Flow > 3 legged dog > flip dog

Chair > Crescent > Warrior 3 > Crescent > open up 1 breath > Flow
Chair > Chair twist > Side Crow
Pashimo > Janu > Bridge > Wheel > Shoulder stand > Plow > Happy BBY > Savasana

Flower Appreciation Club

A selection of some of my favorites #flowerappreciationclub photos I've taken over the last year.

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Injury

Alright, here's the truth...I think I'm actually suffering from an injury. WAMP WAMP! Ok, not like a really big one (I don't think) but I'm like 90% sure it's there. I can feel it when I'm in Warrior 2 for too long on my left side, or if I come down into Extended Side Angle. Its not a super sharp pain, but I can definitely feel it, almost like maybe all my other muscles around my butt cheek are working way harder than they normally would. It sucks. It like really sucks. I like most other yogis love to mess around, take my postures and practice further but lately I find myself backing off. Opting out of the deeper binds or even skipping a peak posture all together. 

It's been really humbling for me. I have progressed rather quickly with my practice and this silly ouchy is really getting in the way of me moving forward...or is it? With having to slow myself down and actually listen to my body be like "yeah right girlfriend, maybe you used to do that but not today" has brought a whole new element and awareness into my practice. It's forced me to use my breath a LOT more. I'm that student next to you in class that's really using my full inhales to get into posture and I'm slowing down my exhales so that I don't rush myself through a posture and aggravate my hip. It's forced me to be aware of my side much more and now is asking me to practice what I preach- listening to your different sides and honoring them equally. Damn taking my own medicine can be a real kicker sometimes!

I'm seeing a few massage therapists in the next few weeks to see if I can get some answer about what's going on in my body, but until then. I'll just be over here breathing and reminding myself that each posture will come...on it's time line, not mine.

Patience, you little...

I'm pretty sure everyone has the same hard time that I do when it comes to remembering patience. We probably notice it the most when we're driving, or the kids are screaming, or our partner says something just wrong. In a yoga class you often hear teachers say to be patient with your body, to allow yourself the space. I never really understood this until recently.

If you're like me- a little Pita, and therefore a little competitive, getting on your mat can be a real test of all your patiences. I've been trying lately to slow life down all around and one of my favorite ways is to slow down my practice. We all know that breath is key in yoga, movements are usually attached to our inhales and exhales. The deeper our breaths the more our intercostal muscles are activated which then activate our parasympathetic nervous system. Which causes us to literally calm down. Hi, we can (in theory) make ourselves more patient. Super cool.

Ok, back to my breath...I've been working on five count inhales and seven count exhales, especially during my sun salutations. As I work through my practice and the kramas build, my breaths usually become shorter and shallower. To avoid this I've been choosing to not go as deep into postures, or using my breaths to pull me deeper. If I end up totally off, I find that I can use my count to return to my mat and recenter my focus. It's a practice for me to remember to stay present and patient for my depth to come to me, but on the days I do I find myself surprised by how clear my practice can make me feel. 

 
 

So its all well and good in a yoga class when you're surrounded by a room full of similarly minded humans, but what about this real world stuff? You know, that whole taking your yoga off your mat. Here's where it all clicked...If I'm all stressed out and worrying or in a mood, all I have to do is count my breath. Hello- duh! Sure it may not make everything melt and fall away the same way it does when I'm in down dog, but it will activate all the same muscles which has all the same effect on my nervous system. Alright, you probably knew all that good stuff, but we all need a friendly reminder that hey, this isn't permanent, not even the good stuff. So stay present and stay patient. All is coming in due time.